Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers – Caring is not Fundamental! It’s Crucial!

When it comes to your Rhode Island Divorce, the selection of a Rhode Island Divorce lawyer that is right for you is not simply fundamental, it is CRUCIAL!

It’s easy for your divorce to frustrate you in such a way that you “just want it over”. That’s a typical mindset for most people facing divorce. Yet people still have this instinctual need to want to make sure they have their interests protected.

So what do people do?

They look up divorce, lawyers or attorneys in the yellow pages and they start calling. Most people will try to find one that has a free consultation first and foremost because they don’t want to spend a dime on a person who may not tell them anything. Divorce lawyers who offer free consultations may or may not tell you anything that will help you. The latter is more likely but that is a blog article for another day on Rhode Island Divorce Tips.

Divorce lawyers shopping is far from enjoyable but it’s important. There are ways to go about it that will make it easier. I will address those in another blog posting as well.

In my Humble Opinion . . .

As a Rhode Island lawyer who has chosen to focus my practice in the area of divorce and family law, as well as a man who tried to consult with attorneys before I went through my own divorce, I have come to one conclusion that I firmly believe. If you don’t engage an attorney who cares about people and who cares specifically about you and your case, then you’ve chosen the wrong divorce lawyer.

That’s right. It’s my opinion that CARING is the biggest factor to be considered when hiring your Rhode Island Divorce or Family Law Attorney.

Why? Think about it! In fact think about people in general and how they think.

So, let’s start with YOU!

When you care about something . . . your child, your wife, your career, your investments, your car or motorcycle, etc. . . What do you do? What do you think about?

When you care about something such that it means something to you don’t you do what you can to take care of it . . . improve it . . . work hard for it . . . protect it . . . and sometimes even die for it! That’s exactly what you do! That’s exactly what everyone does because that is human nature.

We take care of the things and people that we care about. We don’t throw them to the side and ignore them. We don’t abuse them. We don’t destroy them.

Human nature is such that we as people do the most we can based upon how much we care about that thing. When people care they will move mountains for the things and people they care about.

So why is caring important?

That’s the Answer!

If you have an attorney who truly cares about you and your case as I do for my clients, their cases and their assets, you do whatever you can to take care of them.

Sure any attorney will still do what is necessary to insure that he or she will get paid some kind of fee for the work being done for you because that’s that divorce or family lawyer’s livelihood… without that he or she just doesn’t survive.

Yet when you find a caring attorney it’s not about the amount of the fee . . . it’s about YOU. It’s about caring about YOUR LIFE, and YOUR ASSETS and doing what is necessary TO HELP YOU get through the turmoil, sometimes at the expense of the attorney’s personal time or at his or her expense.

We’re out there. Some of us care and we’re here to help you without charging you the $300+ an hour that some attorneys think you need to pay them.

Look for the caring attorney and my bet is that you’ll be better off every time.

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Nine Invisible Barriers to a Civilized Divorce

Making the decision to get a divorce or coming to grips with our spouse’s decision to divorce is never easy. However, once we finally accept that our marriage is headed for a divorce, we find ourselves facing the next difficulty. Since most people don’t like anguish or wasting our money, the next difficulty is to minimize the pain and cost of divorce.

We want to get the settlement that we deserve, without having to waste time, energy, and money to get it. The best way to achieve this is to accomplish a friendly out-of-court settlement as quickly and easily as possible. To do so we must be able to persuade our soon-to-be ex to work with us in obtaining a cooperative resolution – one that is to our liking.

Before being able to reasonably expect to do this, we must be aware of the invisible obstacles that stand in our way. How we choose to handle these obstacles can often spell the difference between a peaceful divorce and a train wreck.

Some obstacles are everyday, common sense things that we already are somewhat familiar with. However, very few are understood how truly destructive they can be. Without some forewarning, we would normally ignore them and minimize their impact.

The following are the nine invisible barriers:

One of the parties does not want a divorce.
The parties have different decision-making styles.
We don’t know how to get through to our spouse.
Feelings count more than the money.
Too much focus on finger-pointing.
Divorce papers make people upset.
A spouse is set on vengeance because of feelings of being wronged.
There is a misconception on what our rights are.
We underestimate the fury we may face.

For more information on each of these invisible barriers, please visit our blog at http://www.chicagodivorceattorney-blog.com/beware-the-unforseen-deal-killers/

Kari L. Cornelison is a family law attorney and mediator, who emphasizes the settlement approach to divorce. She and her partner serve the DuPage and Cook County areas. Their website is www.CivilizedDivorce.com. Visit their blog, ChicagoDivorceAttorney-Blog.com for more tips and information on what you can do before, during and after the divorce process.

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Rhode Island Divorce Attorney – What is an Uncontested Divorce?

When searching for a divorce attorney I find that many of the calls I receive have the caller telling me something like this,

I have an uncontested divorce. My wife and I have agreed on everything so there should be very little you have to do. How much do you charge for that?

Regrettably it isn’t that easy. Usually the caller is trying to simply shop for the lowest price possible using the telephone rather than making an appointment. All in all it’s far from the best way to shop for a divorce lawyer regardless of whether you think you have an agreement or not.

The problem? Most people misunderstand what an uncontested divorce is.

Let me clarify for those who may not have a clear understanding of what it is. When you file for divorce the court gives you a Nominal Date that is about 6 to 8 weeks away from your filing date. This is your hearing date for an uncontested hearing.

Now, if you call an attorney and tell him or her that you have an uncontested matter and that everything is agreed upon then here is what you are telling the attorney,

1. You and your spouse have agreed upon absolutely everything in your divorce.

2. You don’t need legal advice from the attorney regarding your agreement with your spouse because your agreement is what makes it uncontested and if you receive legal advice and change your mind about one or more subjects in your agreement, then your case is no longer contested.

3. You have, in most cases, reduced your agreement to writing, had it formally executed and used the correct legal terminology so that the court will accept the agreement and you have accomplished as spouses what you planned to agree upon.

4. Your agreement with your spouse contains everything that the law requires or your divorce attorney is willing to fill in the gaps on the record of the court.

5. You are able to complete all of this in a timely fashion so you can have the hearing by the Nominal Date.

Now, this is what is known as an uncontested divorce because both parties are in agreement and ready to proceed by the Nominal Date. That does not mean that a matter cannot become “Nominal” at a later date.

For instance, what if it takes you 12 weeks to reach an agreement and you need the help of an attorney to formulate your agreement. Your divorce can still become nominal (i.e. agreed upon) and proceed before a judge. However, it was not uncontested in the true sense of the word because there were issues that needed to be resolved, in other words, one of the spouses was not in agreement either with the terms of the settlement or the wording of it. Thus, it because a nominal hearing by agreement after being contested for one reason or another.

In my experience, at least 8 out of 10 callers will say they have an uncontested divorce and want me to put a price on it. In truth about 1 out of 20 callers has the makings of a truly uncontested divorce and the attorney still can’t be certain of this until he meets with the client. Even after meeting with the client the attorney has only heard one side of the story, since the client cannot represent two opposing parties in a divorce. Therefore, the Rhode Island Divorce lawyer can’t be certain if the other party considers the matter uncontested until the proceeding commences.

Ultimately reliance on any quote you are given for an uncontested divorce over the telephone is most likely misplaced. Attorneys usually bill for the amount of time they spend on a case. Since an attorney cannot predict what is going to happen in your case, how many faxes you may send, how many times you may call, etc. . . then how is the attorney to know how much your divorce will cost. In an effort to get a quick telephone quote from an attorney you could inadvertently fail to provide details that would affect the amount of time it takes or the expense.

Rule of Thumb? Understand what an uncontested divorce truly is. Realize that a good Rhode Island divorce attorney will not generally give you a quote over the telephone. Set up a consultation with several divorce attorneys to find the one best suited to you.

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Of Cheap Divorces and an Uncontested Divorce

Pressure caused by the problems that a married couple goes through can put their marriage through a test. Most often, the marriage starts to fall apart, with both parties wanting to get immediately out of the whole situation and find a better life outside marriage. In the quest to end their marriage in the fastest way, most spouses opt to go through an uncontested divorce.

Almost everyone who wants to get a divorce wants a quick divorce. This should not come as a surprise since it is only human nature for us to want to get out of an uncomfortable situation as soon as possible. Since quick is what they want, then quick is what they will get with the uncontested divorce.

What makes this type of divorce that quick? Well, it’s quick once everything is settled. Instead of taking important issues and initially presenting them in court, the exact opposite is done. Here, important issues are talked about with their respective lawyers prior to court. A private meeting is set between spouses where issues such as marital property and child custody are discussed between them and their attorneys.

This is also a good way for the spouses to keep their privacy since disputes are prevented and any sensitive information about their relationship is kept from the public.

A word of caution though. Be wary of those that have offers that sound just “too good to be true.” Chances are, they are just documents that have been forged to look like as if they have gone through the standard process in a divorce. The main point of these scammers is to have you sign your divorce papers immediately.

When scammed, the only thing that can be considered legal are the signed divorce papers. But technically, you were not able to undergo a divorce because the steps were not followed. This may or not cause a problem for you later on. When the times comes and you try to apply for immigration, marry again, or anything that might need you to show your papers proving that you are indeed divorced, chances are the discrepancies in your papers will be questioned, causing you a delay.

Be careful of those people who offer you a faster way to getting your cheap divorce, especially if they work for the courts. These cunning individuals take pride in their knowledge of the whole process since they know what is checked and reviewed. As tempting as it seems, resist the urge to take advantage of these offers. You will never know that the next time you plan to marry again. You might just find out that you were not divorced at all.

Despite divorce being a highly sensitive and sometimes controversial issue, G. Gibbons finds it just apt that she talks about it in the most realistic way. “Solid and correct information can be the most important thing to receive when suffering through a divorce.”

Georgia began writing to help her closest friends go through the most trying stages of a divorce. She is a paralegal in the divorce department of Allmand & Lee, where she has worked for many years. As a professional working on behalf of the individual Georgia realizes that every case is an important divorce case. She learned the inner workings of divorce over the years and is determined to provide solid information and any support she can to people during this difficult stage in their lives.. The blog Secrets About Divorce [http://blog.secretsaboutdivorce.com/] is for everyone who want to learn about divorce, the possible financial ramifications, and for those who seek a more secure recovery for life during, and after divorce.

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Rhode Island Divorce- Avoid Commingling Your Assets By Mistake!

Rhode Island Divorce comes with some interesting questions of law, especially when it comes to property, real estate, personal property and otherwise.

One concept that everyone going through a Rhode Island divorce should be aware of is the principle of “commingling”.

This can, and sometimes is, a very arguable concept in a Rhode Island Divorce proceeding and the purpose of this blog post is only to make you aware of its significance. You shouldn’t base any decisions on this posting. Just be aware that this concept exists and that it could affect various items of property that you do have that may be subject to equitable distribution in your marriage.

Generally speaking, the principle of “Commingling” takes into account the idea that if you have something that you have thought of as “yours”. . . for instance, something that is either pre-marital that you own or a gift or an inheritance that you received, and you treat that property in such a way that it was either used by you and your spouse or perhaps if it even was intended that you and your spouse both use it and have the benefit of it, then you have taken something that was separate and distinct that was YOURS and you have now commingled it with your spouse such that it has now become a marital asset. Once the court determines that something is a marital asset, it has lost its individual character and it is now subject to equitable distribution in your Rhode Island divorce action.

What does that mean practically speaking? Your spouse is entitled to claim that he or she is entitled to part of that asset or part of its value and you may have no way of stopping him or her from doing so.

Commingling is hard to prevent. You must usually take fairly extreme measures to isolate the item from your spouse completely. No contribution, no usage, no payment of storage fees for the item, no cleaning of the item, NOTHING.

The end result. If you want to truly protect something that you have from being considered part of your marital estate should you ever be faced with a divorce proceeding, get a pre-nuptual agreement at least as to those few things. An understanding spouse will realize that all you are doing is protecting a family heirloom or whatever the item may be and not that you anticipate anything other than being with him or her forever.

This article is for informational purposes only and is not legal advice. You should not take legal action without legal advice from a licensed practitioner who has been fully informed about your specific circumstances.

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